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Post by Daisy & Josey on Aug 17, 2020 14:49:54 GMT
Laura some people are just that way. The poor cats didn't ask to be feral or some abandoned.
Anick we used to put coffee grounds that had already been percolated along the neighbors fence and our driveway. It did seem to work some. But sis in law doesn't like saving stuff so... Thats where the coffee came from. Just don't use anything with pepper or chemicals. Cats walk through the pepper and can scratch their eyes.
Kathy good to see you !!
Dee and Anick Alzheimer and dementia are such hard things to go through. My grandma, dad and 2 Uncles had it. My 1 Uncle and 1 Aunt had cancer also numerous friends. Yes its hard to not feel guilty. But you have to realize a nursing home is the best place unless you have hospice and you have to also take care of yourself.
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Post by TheWildOnes on Aug 17, 2020 18:22:13 GMT
Good morning everyone! I remember my dad dying and being so  , but also relieved for myself as well as for him! He died of cancer and I know he hated being helpless like he was, so that was a blessing as well as a release. Dee, he was always terrified of getting Alzheimers' so getting cancer was a blessing in disguise. That sounds callous, but I don't mean it that way. Carol, that is so wonderful the way you reached out to your neighbor. I think if everyone would do that, this world would be a much better place. Too many are "too proud" to do the kind and understanding thing!! Laura, I'm wodering if you can still use the old AC? Maybe put it in the kitchen or living room so you have another refuge. As for the craft room motivating me, there is still so much to do out there! The closets are full of stuff that needs organizing and I have tons of stuff that I need to get to Goodwill! Anick, there are natural repellents to sprinkle on flowerbeds or gardens include moth balls, ammonia soaked rags, ground mustard, cayenne pepper, citrus peels, coffee grounds, and citrus-based sprays. Since cats have very developed senses of smell, this might help? Marty, hope you had fun this weekend!! Leslie UsurpingToby , how are things going with you? Are you staying cool? Did you find something to help with your eyes? Kathy, we hope Stephen is doing well! And you, too! |
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Favorite Foods: Just about everything, but not kidney prescription kibble
Favorite Toys: Squeaky toys and puzzles
Pet Peves: When mom picks up someone else, especially a cat.
Furblings: (angel) Cheeky, (angel) Pixie, (angel) Dutchess, (cat) Inky & (cat) Nimbus, Dakota, Willow
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Post by Pippi on Aug 17, 2020 22:08:33 GMT
Dee, I hope some day when I go it's quick and and easy. Like you, I don't want a long, lingering death. I wouldn't say cancer though, because that can be a long lingering illness as well and such an emotional and physical roller coaster ride along the way it seems all too often. Anick  for your friend. I know sometimes it's easier said than done, but please tell her not to feel guilty. Her mother is in a much better place now and I think it's okay to be relieved to see an end to that decline and suffering. It can be so draining on the whole family. Hmm. Wish I had good advice on the cats and the flower beds. Off hand I don't have a clue though. That was part of why my cats in the past became indoor only cats because I didn't know how to keep them out of the neighbors mulch. And my current cats are indoor only. Lisa, I am looking at reusing the old a/c. I had first wanted to put it in the kitchen. That room is probably the warmest in the house. There is a smaller window next to the fridge I had wanted to put it, but the window isn't big enough. An inch too small. Doh! The other window is over the sink and I have a tall faucet. Not to mention a bar across the window for towels and basket that hangs there to dry the silverware. I would certainly have to install it from the outside if I put it in that window because of the faucet. I have not decided what to do yet. Arguments for putting it in the kitchen: 1. That room is the warmest right now. 2. I could do more cooking the rest of this summer if I could air condition that room. Right now I am trying to just use the microwave or the crock pot outside. Arguments for putting it in the back room upstairs: 1. Once the whole house a/c is working (or replaced) I really won't need the window unit in the kitchen. So it would only be a temporary thing there. 2. In the window over the sink is not really the ideal location. 3. Even when the whole house a/c is working the rooms up there still could use the window a/c. If I put it there I wouldn't have to move it twice. I used to have one there, but it died. This old one may not last much longer. It's already lasted longer than what I read they usually do. Most things say about 10 years and it was in the front bedroom for 12 years. One other option for it is the sun porch. It can get pretty toasty out there in the summer and I only use that area first thing in the morning or not at all. If that were out there I could enjoy it more. I wouldn't even have to run it all the time, but could when I wanted to be out there. My parents came over and we got the old one out of my bedroom and the new one in. The new one didn't seem as drop in weather proof as the old one. I had to do a lot more filling and dealing with cracks and spots. I'm sure part of the problem is my old single pane aluminum windows. Probably designed more for a different window sill type thing. But after a lot of work after the installation I think I have things buttoned up pretty well. I hope so anyway. The table worked well and I was able to do the lifting. Dad helped with things like raising and lowering the window and a few other things and got to give lots of advice. I think mom and I could have done it with the table, but I'm glad dad came. I'm sure this helped him feel useful still. I still can't get over how much quieter the new one is! The old one was part of the reason I had given up watching tv. You had to have the tv so loud to hear it over the window a/c. The new one has a quiet mode and it really is quiet. Even when it kicks it into a higher mode it is still quieter than the old one. If I keep the fan going on the other side of the room the new unit comes closer to keeping the whole room near the temp you set it at. If I turn the fan off, then the opposite side of the room warms up like with the old one. It's about 6 degrees warmer than what it is set at. That is better than the old one did. It may be that I don't have the bedroom door closed, but I am hoping some of that cool air will float out and help cool the hall and bathroom, too. Lisa, I hear you on needing to go through closets and such. I guess the thing that helped in my case is the closets had to be emptied two years ago for the plumbing. One closet had the vent pipe going up through it. The other closet had access to the attic. I was determined nothing was going back in the closets until it had been gone through. Otherwise I knew it wouldn't happen. Too easy to have it out of sight out of mind. My donation pile has grown a little. I really need to take what I have and donate it and get it out of the way. I am pooped this evening. All the lifting and shifting and out on the hot roof has kicked my butt today. Tomorrow I'm playing. I haven't been caching with my local caching buddy since June and we are going out tomorrow. Part of me is looking forward to it, and part of me wishes I was staying home and watching a movie. BOL - Laura (Pippi, Cheeky, Inky and Nimbus) |
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Post by DALLAS on Aug 18, 2020 10:53:01 GMT
Good morning everyone Happy Tuesday
Well Anick I fully understand your friend feeling guilty. Mommy always feels guilty about having to put daddy in the nursing home and though she will hate it when he does die but she prays a prayer for dementia everyday that God does take him to end his suffering as when daddy used to visit his mom in the nursing home he used to say don't let me live like that but what can one day here he is living not in a coma like his mom but having to depend on someone to get him out of a wet diaper and not being able to carry on a conversation. I feel guilty asking God to take him but it is so hard to watch someone who was a hard working person always being active being a shell not knowing what is going on around him not remember his loved one he is not the man I married. Always smiling positive attitude helping others when he could. The social worker made the comment yesterday while visiting Ward she doesn't know which is worse the dementia patient, the virus stopping families from being together and mommy added the comment the family members having to watch them slowly die and being totally depended on someone to help them and not have their sanity. Mommy sister was upset that a heart attack killed her husband I told her be thankfully it could have left him alive and he would end up with dementia which would really drain all your finances and your emotions.
Lisa I don't think you are callous saying cancer got him better than dementia as your dad was always afraid of getting dementia.
Laura you certainly are weighing the pros and cons about putting the old a/c in the kitchen though it would only be temporary and the work involved getting it in the window from the outside. I am sure you will think of what you want to do. Just do it before the colder weather sets in. I kind of like the idea of it being on the sun porch so you can enjoy your sun porch more in the summer and won't have to move it again.
Marty how are you doing
Carol you are right the nursing home is the best as I can't take care of him 24 /7 like a nursing home.
Well I got a letter from Boone County Courthouse house yesterday I was late in sending in a yearly report which I must do since I am the guardian of Ward listing his assets and his debts. They sent the form along with the letter if I don't get it completed in 30 days I will be fine $10 a day and guardianship dissolved so I called a lawyer that does guardianship paperwork for the yearly work and he wants $250 but Lisa messaged me when I was sleeping that she does Jerry's for his mom's and he just takes it to the courthouse has them notarize it and turn it in. So I message her this morning when she gets off work I will go to her house help me complete the paperwork if not too late maybe I can get the bank to notarize it otherwise I will be driving to Burlington in the morning to have them notarize it. It was the 2nd item in the guardianship papers I noticed when reading over it. I said they did not send me a form to complete it they said it is up to the Guardian to call them requesting the form they will mail it to you. I marked it on the calendar for next year if Ward is still here.
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Post by Mallee Angel Dream Girl on Aug 18, 2020 19:52:05 GMT
Afternoon, Lady's ~
Seems like every day is still such a challenge around here. Stephen let his supplies get too low before he ordered more, and they haven't come yet. We changed the wafer day before yesterday and it leaked overnight. We did a patch job, and another and yet, another. He had one wafer left. We had to use it this morning as he had been up most of the night working on patch jobs. These aren't suppose to leak like that. And so this morning we put a new one on, and two hours later, it leaked. We've done a couple patch jobs since then, but we have no more supplies, nor more wafers or bags. He called and they were shipped over a week ago, but it says not to even call about it until it's been ten days. Ugh. Frustration city here. I still have my dealing with my eyes, but not so much that, I have eczema and my skins cracks, as well as scabs on my head that itch and bleed. I had seen a dermatologist at one time but thet was in the beginning I think like seven or eight years ago. Stephen is napping now and we still have to go to the store.
Girls, do any of you have to end up going to two different stores to get the items you want or need? We went yesterday, but couldn't get everything and they were out of some things. Going to Fareway today, it's a much more pleasant experience, a smaller store with everything you need, just not as much. And they have a meat counter. We get our Filet's there and our hamburger meat. The last hamburger meat we got from Hyvee we had to end up throwing two lbs out, because it was bad, smelled bad and was all brown. But we got some catfish filets from there, and had them last night and it was excellent. You just never know.
We've had some really nice couple days here temps in the 70's low 80's with a breeze. Temps will go back up as the week unfolds.
My x had dementia, but I've not had to deal with it, as he is in another state. I did use to talk with him, but that's been years ago. My dad passed from Cancer also, and those last few days he had hospice. That was a time. I can only imagine what my mom was going through. I miss them terribly at times.
Well all I've gotten done today is laundry, but yesterday I swept the house, cleaned the bath and potty and did trash. Sometimes it just takes all of my energies to do anything at all.
Laura, Lisa, Marty, Anick, Dee, Carol, Leslie are some days better than others for you? It seems many of you are getting so much done, and I feel so guilty that my closet needs cleaned out too, but it's really small so not much can fit there anyway. Oh and Laura I hope you have a grand day while Geocaching! I hope the weather wasn't too warm for you. Lisa, are you surviving the Arizona heat? I seen so many places where the heat is just so high. I don't know, I haven't always been this sensitive to hot weather. I grew up in N Texas.
I am so glad and thankful that we are here for each other. Thank you for listening, and I am truly sorry if I rambled on. 
Love ya'll,
Kathy, Milo Blue Eyes, A Mallee 'n A Smokey Joe 
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Post by TheWildOnes on Aug 18, 2020 21:36:32 GMT
Hi everyone!!
Okay, I am going to say something controversial here! I think we should have the right to die! We can humanely let our pets go, why can't we do it for our suffering loved ones? I mean, obviously if that is what THEY would want?
Dee, I hope Lisa can help you with those forms. Seriously, if they don't send you the forms, they should at least let you know the time is coming up!
Kathy, I am so sorry that Stephen's supplies didn't come yet! I sure hope they came today!!
Laura, I vote for putting the AC in the sun room! That sounds really nice!! Sorry you don't get to just relax tomorrow! That sounds nice, too!
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Post by DALLAS on Aug 19, 2020 10:18:03 GMT
 ood morning everyone Happy Wednesday Kathy so sorry they told you to wait for ten days before calling about supplies I think they should ship them next day delivery for you. I hope you get them today. I hate shopping if I can't get something at one store then I won't get it at all. I used to let Ward do all the grocery shopping since he believed in running around everywhere to save a penny here or there and I told him you are saving anything with the gas you spend running around. Don't consider rambling we enjoy chatting with you. Lisa I always thought I was a wicked person but I have the same thoughts they tell us it is only humane to put our loving pets down when their quality of life is shot or if they are in pain now not sure if Ward is in pain with dementia but his quality of life is really shot he always visited his mom in a comatose state in a nursing home and never wanted to end up like that and he is practically like that though not comatose but is totally dependent on someone to change his depends if they just check on him every couple hours he can be sitting in a wet depends or pooped depends for 2 hours before they check on him and the humiliations he can't see he can't carry on a conversation, can't walk he is slowly dying not a cure where he will recover. One guy went to prison for helping family members go when they have a disease no cure for. We each have a living will don't want to be kept alive by machines people should be allowed to say put me asleep rather than let me lie in a bed with dementia. Just giving a patient more anesthesia will send them away with no pain. I totally agree we should have the right to say if there is no cure and only will get worse let me leave this earth with dignity and my right mind. Sorry off my soap box Yes Lisa helped me got the paperwork completed the justice court opens at 8:30 I will leave here at that time take it there have them notarize it and be finished Laura what have you decided on where to put your A/C Marty how is everyone in your household Anick love the pictures you posted of Teddy and Willy on facebook Carol are you getting food from your garden Hugs Dee & Tori |
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Post by Daisy & Josey on Aug 19, 2020 15:23:04 GMT
Happy Wednesday!! Please ladies don't ever feel guilty. It hurts but the best thing to do is get the best care you can. You can only do so much on your own. I had my hubby and son and daughter but they all had jobs to go to. I spent plenty of time being at Uncle Dicks house with him before he got bad with Alzheimer's. It was hard telling him a lie to get his car away from him, but I did do it. Then we got him to go look at a nursing home and got him in there but it didn't work out. They kept losing him in the building and a few other things went on. So he ended up in the next city at one where his neighbor lady worked at. But he didn't know people by that time. Yes Kathy sometimes we need 2 stores. One will run out then we hope the other has it LOL! Hopefully someday things will get better everywhere  Carol and Molly and Pooks |
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Post by TheWildOnes on Aug 19, 2020 22:27:42 GMT
Hi everyone.
Dee don't ever feel you are wicked! If we believe in an afterlife, it is a blessing! And for your loved one not to lose their dignity and quality of life? that is a REAL blessing!!
Carol it must have been hard but also a relief! We know uncle Dick is looking down and smiling!
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Post by DALLAS on Aug 20, 2020 9:43:05 GMT
 ood morning everyone Happy Thursday. Till people have family members suffering with the disease they don't know how terrible it is. One knows how much they can take and when it starts being too much one needs to turn over to others who can do it and trained to handle it. Carol thank you for your kind words and support Lisa thank you for your kind words and support we are glad Ranger is doing much better and good luck with his dental hope he doens't need any teeth pulled Laura are you getting all your work done is the house much cooler now Marty so you had a pretty busy week and Hershey enjoyed his Hersheymobile Kathy nice that you found out meat was bad before eating it and don't blame you for not buying any more meat at the store that sold bad meat. Glad paw and Milo were enjoying the sun porch and paw helped with cleaning the kitty litter. Our senior center sent us a message they are having a drive through a the YMCA in Burlington for school supplies for children they sent us a list of supplies to get Rosemarie picked up some at Walmart I will get some this morning when I go to Kroger to get Tori her nonfat frozen yogurt to put her pills in then at 11 will drive through the YMCA dropping off the supplies. I will print out directs to the YMCA from my computer as I tried it in my GPS yesterday and it did not recognize the address could not bring it up my cell phone does but afraid it will drain battery Hugs Dee & Tori |
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Post by willy on Aug 20, 2020 11:59:36 GMT
Here we did have the debate about the right to die in dignity. If someone is sick and their is no cure and long suffering is what is coming that person as the right to ask a doctor to help him or her die. It is done on a preset date and the family can be with the sick person when it happen and it is all legal as long as the choice is done by the sick person and it is something that can't be cure.
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Post by DALLAS on Aug 20, 2020 12:33:10 GMT
Willy is the sick person has dementia he is unable to do it
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Post by DALLAS on Aug 20, 2020 12:35:14 GMT
 ey everyone found my next project after I finish the baby blanket this is called a pocket shawl so I will start this and it is crocheted watched a tutorial very easy and simple |
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Post by Daisy & Josey on Aug 20, 2020 14:44:19 GMT
Anick I agree. People should have a choice and also make it known to family. If there is time before things go downhill. Dee that will be so beautiful!! We have a beautiful sunny day Have a great one!! Carol and Molly and Pooks |
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Skills: Making it over, around or under all kinds of things meant to keep me out (or in). Accomplished toilet paper thief.
Favorite Foods: Just about everything, but not kidney prescription kibble
Favorite Toys: Squeaky toys and puzzles
Pet Peves: When mom picks up someone else, especially a cat.
Furblings: (angel) Cheeky, (angel) Pixie, (angel) Dutchess, (cat) Inky & (cat) Nimbus, Dakota, Willow
Likes: All kinds of things. I like working on tricks, hikes, getting some off leash hikes, walks, pack walks, and having fun!
How active are you?: Somewhat Active
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Post by Pippi on Aug 20, 2020 17:36:23 GMT
Playing catch up today. Dee, I sure am sorry you still have to jump through hoops from time to time with the paper work and such. Hopefully with Lisa's help it will be easily sorted out. Kathy ugh on running out of supplies. And ugh on not being able to talk to sometime until they are 10 days late. What a mess. Hope they have already arrived and you are in good shape now. Has Stephen ever talked to the doctor or nurse about the leaking? Do they have any advice or could they show him how to do something differently where it might not leak so much? for both of you because I know that has to be frustrating. Most of the time if the store doesn't have what I am looking for I just come up with plan B. I don't usually go to another store to try and find it. That is food and general supplies. Now sometimes you need something and there is no substitute. So that's another story. And yes! Some days I have more energy than others. Most of the time I have spurts of energy. I usually do better if I get an early start on things. But if I have a day that really wipes me out (like changing out the a/c unit Monday) sometimes it takes me a day or two to feel like I have recovered. I've been that way most of my life, while my sister seems to have endless amounts of energy. I have often told her I think she got her energy allotment and mine. hehe. I struggle with the heat and often get a lot more done in cooler weather. And I feel like every year my tolerance of the heat is less and less. I think I am going to have to move to Antarctica one day. hehe Lisa, in many cases I think we should have the right to die. My fear though is the potential for abusing that. Not so much in a case when someone can decide for themselves, but when someone else is making the decision for a person. Or what about in a case of depression. You have a patient who is depressed and wants to die ... at that moment in time, but with medication could happily go on living. Just throwing that out as an example. In the case of terminal illnesses though where there is no getting better then perhaps it should be more of an option. There is my two cents worth anyway. hehe Anick, as usual it sounds like Canada is ahead of the US when it comes to the way medical care is handled. Dee, what color are you planning for your pocket shall? Love pockets. They always come in handy. That reminds me of a time when my sister was little. She was a chatter box!! (Still can be.) She had seen a pair of socks that had a pocket on the side. She went on and on and on for what seemed like forever telling us how neat it would be to have pockets in your socks and what all you could put in that pocket. We still tease her about it every now and then. I should be getting more done today but I'm dragging and haven't accomplished much. So far the old a/c unit is sitting in the floor in the kitchen and I fear it will be for some time. Getting my parents over here to help is not always easy, but I DO understand that they need even more time than me to recover from a day like Monday switching out the old unit for the new. We often don't move fast on things. I'm guilty of that myself because I still haven't decided for sure where I would like it. I wish they didn't weigh as much and it was a little easier to put in and out of the window. Then it would be easy to say I need it most right now in the kitchen. But since it is more work to move and I need help I am very tempted to do the sun porch and not have to move it again. I got a pork tenderloin the other day and cut it up into smaller pieces. I cooked one in the crock pot yesterday and put the others in the freezer. I wish I had done a bigger piece yesterday. It was good and I ended up eating it all. Not sure what I am fixing tonight, but I can tell you I am hungry after being over in the cafe. BOL! We had a little rain come through just a little bit ago. Still looks like we could have more. That would suit me fine. - Laura (Pippi, Cheeky, Inky and Nimbus) |
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, but also relieved for myself as well as for him! He died of cancer and I know he hated being helpless like he was, so that was a blessing as well as a release. Dee, he was always terrified of getting Alzheimers' so getting cancer was a blessing in disguise. That sounds callous, but I don't mean it that way. 
for your friend. I know sometimes it's easier said than done, but please tell her not to feel guilty. Her mother is in a much better place now and I think it's okay to be relieved to see an end to that decline and suffering. It can be so draining on the whole family. 
Glad you got a sprinkle 
